Is Your Love Transactional?

29 years of living and I only recently had the epiphany that the way I define "love" counteracts God's definition of "agape" love and what that truly looks like. I believe as life goes on, we all have varying seasons of what Spirit wants us to focus on. In my current season, God has me focusing on my soon to be marriage, attending pre marital counseling and learning what a God centered, God focused relationship should be. 

In telling my pastor that I am doing my best to "check off the boxes" Raiem has regarding certain expectations and desires for a wife; he turned to me and said my definition of love seemed "transactional". I then realized that this is how I learned to navigate my walk with God as well. I learned that love had to be earned not freely given. I believed that my actions and obedience gained me God's love. I felt so unworthy of God's kindness and grace towards me, that all my life I subconsciously used my abilities and efforts to feel worthy.

Today and all my days moving forward, I am deciding to accept God's agape love for me and to show the same kind of unconditional love and respect to my fiance. Tune in to hear me breakdown how God defines his perfect love, and how we must actively go against what culture says dating should be.